Martial arts can be tricky to discuss. There are many arts out there, and many of them have dramatically different opinions about what are "good skills to know." Some arts don't teach grappling, others only teach grappling. Some teach punches, some teach kicks.
There is no scientific way to determine which is best, because there is no agreed upon criteria for how to measure that. Some have tried. Some claim that success in the MMA arena is the criteria for success. Others claim that success in combat is the criteria. Still others say that if you live a life enriched by your martial art, you have succeeded.
However, martial arts are a major time commitment. It takes many years to become proficient in any art. Thus it is common for any given martial arts group to loudly claim that their way of viewing thing is best, and anyone who disagrees is lesser. This creates great conflict because people do not like to acknowledge any possibility that they have been wasting their time.
If I want to have a civilized discussion of any martial arts concept, I have to be aware of these highly opinionated regions of the martial arts space. What are the best ways to avoid verbal conflict, and instead find a way for everyone involved in the discussion to gain from the discussion, even if the topic was one they did not consider to be "essential" to martial arts.
I hope the answers can address both halves of the issue:
- How to identify and avoid initiating people's defensive mechanisms
- How to identify when my own defensive mechanisms are being triggered, and seek to avoid making the situation worse.
This question is now misplaced
This question has been migrated to meta, which is for discussion about about how the martial arts SE forum should work. Its focus has thus been artificially narrowed to only the discussion within the SE framework, rather than the answers I sought for every day life (for instance, ways to maintain civility between two individuals, one who is learning Tai Chi, and the other is learning Krav Maga).
I will not accept any answers on this question which answer only the narrow question which only deals with martial arts SE. The only answers I will accept are those which properly address my actual question. Hopefully the question will be re-migrated soon.